5 Girls I Wish To Date This Year
It’s not about dating, it’s about knowing
“The core of man’s spirit comes from new experiences.” — Alexander Supertramp
We are living in the best of all times. We have risen above the miseries that our previous generations were going through. The bottom of Maslow’s Pyramid is kind of given in our life. However, the third level need i.e. The Emotional Needs is where there is dissatisfaction among many of us. For some fulfilling these emotional needs comes from pursuit to career, for some it’s pursuit of love but for me, it’s a pursuit of experiences.
And one way to maximize experiences is by emotionally knowing different types of people in the world. Dating a person is the best way to know them emotionally — what their past experiences have been, what drives them and what they look forward to in their future. For that reason, I would like to date below mentioned girls, connect with them, listen to their stories and become best of their friends:
1. The Air-hostess
Traveling Stoic
Every time I board a flight, I see three twenty somethings females who always greet us with a smile. But behind that smile, deep pain seems to be hiding. I, someday, want to sit down with her to listen to her story. What drives her every morning to wake up at 3 am, dress up in her short uniform, wear make-up and come to work to give her customers a pleasant experience. I want to listen how her job is completely monotonous starting with cabin preparations, welcoming guests, safety instructions, serving meals and clearing up. I want to listen to the interesting stories she has to share about her travels to different parts of the world. I want listen from her if she is scared about her future — with such a disappointing demography ratio, does she think about the threat to her job as she grows older. What does she think about the lack of males in her role and how it impacts her. And most importantly what made her to join this industry and how she plans to start a family managing work and life at the same time.
2. The News Reporter
Smart Conversationalist
Looking at a CNBC or NDTV reporter, I always think will I ever meet such a smart, intelligent, spontaneous conversationalist in real life. A reporter needs to be an expert in multiple domains — one is the way to deliver the news and other is the in-depth knowledge on the subject they are delivering the news. Reaching at this level would definitely asked from her a lot of hard work. In addition to the that, the tremendous competition existing in their industry would be an additional challenge. I would like to listen to her stories of interesting newsroom moments, personalities she has interviewed and blunders she has made. I would like to surely learn from her how to be a great conversationalist, how to speak when there is no one in front of you and how to always have a spontaneous polite response. Also, I would like to know from her what is her personal thoughts on the ethical practices of media industry.
3. The Bartender
Partying Listener
Although very few in numbers, a female bartender in India would be a very interesting personality to date. Contradictory to Air-hostess, her day would usually start at 4 pm and end at 4 am. The first thing I would like to know from her about what she thinks of the safety of women at workplace in her industry. Apart from top-tier hotels, I am not sure what kind of POSH (Prevention of Sexual Harassment) practices are present in the workplace. What precautions she take to overcome if any challenges that are present. I would also like to listen from her the stories of different customers and her experiences of good and bad customers in inebriated state. I would like to listen from her, how her personal life is extremely challenging because of continuous night shifts and no offs on the weekend.
4. The Entrepreneur
Motivated Risk-taker
I would grab an opportunity to meet an entrepreneur at the first go. I am sure her motivation level to start up on her own leaving her secured job and passionately following her dreams would fill me with energy. I need that pump. I want to listen from her how she convinced her loved ones to allow her to pursue her dreams. How she handled the initial critics who kept giving her examples of sharmaji-ki-beti. I would like to listen to her business model, the go-to market strategy, her funding and revenue model and her growth plans. I would like to know from her if I could help her in any ways. At the end, I would like to tell her that she inspires me and she should continue her efforts in achieving her dreams.
5. The Artist
Philosophical Thinker
We all are attracted to personalities of artistic mindset up to some extent, be it a guitarist, a singer, a musician, a writer, a painter, a photographer, an actor or a model. Success in these areas is very unlikely. Reaching the epitome of artistic pursuits requires an innate ability of touching people’s heart. Touching the heart of people requires connection with the philosophy of maximum number of people. Sitting down with an artist would surely open my mind to a completely different thought process. The deep philosophy that governs an artist is always unique and there would be a lot to learn from. They always keep things interesting for you.
Note: Some may feel it’s wrong to date a person just to increase your pursuit of experiences. And I agree. But what if that part is made clear in the initial meeting itself. Is that still unethical? I am not sure…!
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